{Written after reading When Breath Becomes Air... Sooo good} Hello dearest reader! This is the second in my little motherhood series and here, my mom answers some of my questions. It was amazing to me that when I became a mother, I became part of a club whose members (mommies) had so much wisdom and insight. I find myself asking for advice or input from other moms all the time- not only do I think it is healthy to admit that you don't know all of the answers (hint: no one does!), but it's wonderful to share experiences and tips with others who are going through the same things. It is an incredible lifelong group that I am so proud to be included in.
There is no question that everything I know about being a mother, I learned from my mom. She is the most positive, selfless, supportive, loving, sweet person ever. I tell everyone that any success I've ever had in my life is because my mom made sure that we knew there was a net under us at all times. That net was the unconditional love she (and my dad) had for me. It's very easy to chase your dreams in life when you know that no matter what you do, whether you succeed or fail, your family is 100% behind you. Unquestionably, and without judgment-- just support and love. It is so important to me that my children will know this β β that no matter what they do, what decisions they make, wherever their hearts might take them, I will be right there, cheering them on, raising them up, and covering them with love.
In honor of Mother's Day, I sat down with my mom (over a chocolate chip cookie and a cup of βοΈ) and asked her some questions about motherhood.
GDSL: What do you think is the very best thing about being a mother (besides, obviously, having me for a daughter, ha ha)?
The very best thing about being a mother is the love you feel. Having your heart grow with so much love and loving someone in a way you could never imagine before becoming a mother.
GDSL: Isn't that the most unexpected thing? This little being comes out and within a second, you would lay down your life and do anything...ANYTHING... for this child. What do you think is the most important thing a mother can give a child?
In my opinion, the most important things to give a child would be unconditional love, strong values, and a great family foundation. As a mom, I knew that if I instilled values in my children and created an unbreakable family unit, they would go out in the world as confident, good, loving human beings. And I am proud that they did.
GDSL: Aww! That is so sweet. I feel like I learn from my child everyday....What did you learn about yourself through motherhood?
That you will never feel like you know the right answer. That you will need to ask for help. That some days are long and exhausting and those will be followed by beautiful days that seem like a dream. That motherhood, like life, is a marathon and not a sprint-- and the collection of days are what matter. I learned that my greatest pride and love come from being a mother. I learned that my capacity to give and care are limitless. I learned that to be a mother really is about teaching and shaping and hopes and dreams for these little people that you love. Motherhood has been my greatest journey.
GDSL: Gosh, that is the perfect answer. I know those feelings and how connected you can feel to the sadness and the happiness of your child-- how you want the best for them at all times...How is being a grandmother different from being a mother?
I don't know if there's any difference between being a mother than a grandmother. The love you have for your daughter and then to become a grandmother is so special on many levels. I'm a grandmother to my daughter's child. I fell in love with her as soon as she was born (actually before she was born). At that moment I remembered becoming a mother myself and the overwhelming love I had for my own daughter. Now I'm seeing my daughter entering motherhood. It's the beautiful circle of life.
GDSL: There is a little baby boy in my tummy--how do you think this baby will fit into our lives?
This little guy is already loved so much and he is going to fit into our family perfectly. He has a big sister who is over the moon to have a little brother and he is going to be smothered with love by his cousins and aunts and uncles. A baby is a beautiful blessing and now, its about making memories together.
GDSL: It's true. I knew as soon as I found out I was pregnant that telling my daughter would be the very best part. She wakes me up with kisses on my belly and must say 15 times a day "Tell baby brother I love him". It is the sweetest, purest thing and it gets me emotional every time. You've watched me and guided me through motherhood β β what has been your favorite part of that?
Pride and joy fills my heart as I watch you as a mother. You are an amazing mother-- so loving, kind, attentive and always there for every one of Addison's needs, guiding her to be polite, thoughtful, kind and considerate. Addison is truly blessed to have you as her mother.
GDSL: (Blushing)...That is so nice! I think we are all blessed....
Happy Mother's Day to all of the mommies out there- in every form motherhood takes (to 4 legged babies too). Moms are heroes to me, each and every one of you! Hope everyone has a beautiful day...Sweetly, Michelle